Ingredient Two
Every other week my friend Lindsay and I share in “family therapy night” at Taco Bueno. Yeah, we made it up. On occasion others choose to partake in the festivities. Should you decide to join us, you will need to make yourself familiar with the rules:
Rule #1 Dine-in only.
Rule #2 It’s required to spend a minimum of five minutes deciphering what to order.
Rule #3 When placing your order, you have to be very complicated and do your best to confuse the persons taking the order. Two or more modifications must be made to your selected menu items.Rule
Rule #4 You MUST order a party burrito.
Rule #5 Before consuming the party burrito, it is required that you sing in song and shake out a little dance as instructed by Lindsay or myself. this is what we refer to as, “the celebration of the party burrito.”Rule #6 You have to eat off of your tray.Rule
#7 The Bueno plays awesome music. Bring a pen and paper to write down the music you hear. Immediately go home and purchase the music on itunes.
Rule #8 It is essential for each individual to take a moment to appreciate the fine artwork on the walls.
My dearest Julia joined Lindsay and me for our most recent session of “family therapy night” at the Bueno. We discussed much of what I wrote about in my last blog entry, but then of course many a more questions were raised, which means that I had more thinking to do,this means you have more reading to do…
What derails us from extraordinary living? Common causes of disrupt: laziness, resentment, fear, failure, and exhaustion.
LAZINESS.Main Entry: 1la·zy Pronunciation: ..ˈlā-zē.Function: adjective Inflected Form(s): la·zi·er; la·zi·est Etymology: perhaps from Middle Low German lasich feeble; akin to Middle High German erleswen to become weak Date: 1549 1 a: disinclined to activity or exertion : not energetic or vigorous b: encouraging inactivity or indolence 2: moving slowly : sluggish3: droopy , lax
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RESENTMENT. Main Entry: re·sent·ment Pronunciation: ..ri-ˈzent-mənt.. Function: noun Date: 1619 : a feeling of indignant displeasure or persistent ill will at something regarded as a wrong, insult, or injury, ill feeling, aggrieved feelings caused by a sense of having been badly treated
Resentment is found with one’s self or with a loved one. Most common cause of resentment: Placing ALL of your trust in others or in yourself alone. You cannot make someone else happy. Someone else cannot make you happy. So often we rely on some individual to be our satisfaction. This will always be a blueprint for diasappointment, wich in turn can lead to resentment. You have to find your joy in something more consistent than relationships. Instead of putting all trust, hopes, and dreams, into a person who is likely going to let you down at some point or another , and looking to them for contentment, trust in faith for those things. After all, people are just people. We fail all of the time. We hurt others constantly and repetitiously. And in my experiences I have found that I have hurt others the most when I myself am hurting. This is why I esteem grace. Grace is pertinent. The beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair. A quote from the book I am currently reading captured the meaning of grace for me. “For some reason, beyond understanding, she seems to love him now more than ever, even though I get the sense that he hurt her something fierce in the early years. I suppose that since most of our hurts come through relationships so will our healing, and I know that grace rarely makes sense for those looking in from the outside.”—William P. Young “(The Shack.) When I am consciously taking stock of what I place my faith and trust into and focus on granting and accepting grace, there resides harmony.
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FEAR.
Main Entry: 1fear Pronunciation: ..ˈfir.. Function: verb Etymology: Middle English feren, from Old English fǣran, from fǣDate: before 12th century transitive verb 1archaic : frighten2archaic : to feel fear in (oneself)3: to have a reverential awe of 4: to be afraid of : expect with alarm intransitive verb: to be afraid or apprehensive — fear·er noun
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FAILURE. Main Entry: fail·ure
Pronunciation: ..ˈfāl-yər.. Function: noun Etymology: alteration of earlier failer, from Anglo-French, from Old French faillir to fail Date: 1643 1 a: omission of occurrence or performance ; specifically : a failing to perform a duty or expected action .. b (1): a state of inability to perform a normal function .. — compare heart failure (2): an abrupt cessation of normal functioning c: a fracturing or giving way under stress .2 a: lack of success b: a failing in business : bankruptcy3 a: a falling short : deficiency b: deterioration , decay4: one that has failed
At first failure sucks. It hurts. Its mirrors defeat. But learning to develop failure into benefit, could be life changing. The movie Elizabethtown perhaps makes the best references to failure I have ever come across. “So you failed. Alright you really failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. I do understand. You want to be really great? Then have the courage to fail big and stick around. Make them wonder why you're still smiling. There's a difference between a failure and a fiasco. A failure is merely the absence of success. Any fool can achieve failure. But a fiasco, a fiasco is a disaster of epic proportions. A fiasco is a folk tale told to other's to make other people feel more alive because it didn't happen to them. No true fiasco ever began as a quest for mere adequacy. A motto of the British Special Air Force is: 'Those who risk, win.' A single green vine shoot is able to grow through cement. The Pacific Northwestern salmon beats itself bloody on it's quest to travel hundreds of miles upstream against the current, with a single purpose, sex of course, but also... life.”
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EXHAUSTION.
Main Entry: ex·haus·tion
Pronunciation: ..ig-ˈzȯs-chən..Function: noun Date: 1615 : the act or process of exhausting : the state of being exhausted1 a: to consume entirely : use up .. b: to tire extremely or completely .. c: to deprive of a valuable quality or constituent 2 a: to draw off or let out completely b: to empty by drawing off the contents ; specifically : to create a vacuum in3 a: to consider or discuss (a subject) thoroughly or completely b: to try out the whole number of intransitive verb
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~I write everything as if it is truth or absolute, when most of it is purely my opinion. But I like sounding confident. Just so you know. Oh, and this morning I went to Starbucks and ordered a leprechaun. Not to be confused with Spencer.
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ISAIAH 40: 28-31How can you say God ignores your rights?Have you never heard?Have you never understood?The Lord is the everlasting God,the Creator of all the earthHe never grows weak or wearyNo one can measure the depths of his understandingHe gives power to the weakand strength to the powerlessEven youths will become weak and tired,and young men will fall in exhaustionBut those who trust in the Lord will find new strengthThey will soar high on wings like eaglesThey will run and not grow wearyThey will walk and not faint(Music helps bring energy to life too. It’s remedy for the soul.
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